Jane Wilding Counselling
Counselling and psychotherapy for Individuals and couples in Oban, Argyll and online
Jane Wilding Counselling
Counselling and psychotherapy for Individuals and couples in Oban, Argyll and online
Welcome
Individual and Couples Therapy in Oban, Argyll and online.
My name is Jane Wilding, I am a registered counsellor and psychotherapist working with individuals and couples in Oban and online.
I started my counselling journey with a Certificate in Counselling Skills from Strathclyde University in 2001, then went on to study with Edinburgh Gestalt Institute from 2003 - 2008, achieving a Diploma in Gestalt Therapy in 2008. After a break to go travelling, I now work in private practice in Argyll and online.
I also have over 30 years of experience in co-counselling with Co-Counselling International.
In 2024 I completed Couples training with Relationships Scotland (formerly Relate) in Edinburgh, and now see individuals and couples at my rooms in Oban, and remotely by zoom.
I am a registered member of the BACP (the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy) and work in accordance with their ethical framework. I also have Rewind Trauma Therapy training.
My Approach
I provide a safe, welcoming and confidential space for you to explore what is going on in your life, ways to understand why you do what you do, and tools to help you change anything you would like to change. I work creatively and may use drawing, writing, and movement when appropriate.
If you have a specific, current issue you want to explore – things like conflicts at work or in your family, career or life changes, or a bereavement – we may work for between six and twenty sessions until you feel you have enough insight and are happy with how to proceed.
Longer term work can be helpful for issues like feeling stuck, anxious or depressed, repeating the same issues in relationships or responding to certain situations or people in ways that aren’t helpful. We don’t have to decide in the beginning how long therapy might take; in both short and long term work, we will follow whatever arises in the moment, or whatever interests you to explore, and we will almost certainly delve into your early history and family background.
Normally we meet once a week, on the same day and time, at least in the beginning. We have regular reviews of our work together to make sure you’re getting what you need.
WHAT CAN I HELP WITH?
Here are some examples of problems counselling can help with:
Feelings of stress or anxiety, including eco-anxiety
Panic attacks
Grief, loss and bereavement
Depression
Anger management
Intimate relationships
Traumatic events and post-traumatic stress
Problems with addiction
Confidence and self-esteem
Feeling like you don’t ‘fit in’
Feeling stuck in life, work or relationships
Childhood and First Family issues
Life transitions
Career and work issues
Relationship conflicts in the family or workplace
Counselling for individuals
Individual counselling is best for working through shorter term issues, like a bereavement, a period of anxiety, a stressful event or a conflict with a family member or in the work place. Generally it will be a number of sessions from six to about twenty, looking at your ways of dealing with similar issues but also using practical ideas to help you deal with what’s going on.
Psychotherapy for individuals
Psychotherapy is generally longer term than counselling, and is good for looking at your ways of being in the world – in relationships, beliefs, or patterns of behaviour and how they help or hinder you.
COUPLES COUNSELLING
As a couple you will be encouraged to look at how you communicate with each other, how you approach your differences, and how you address your individual needs. It is possible to do ‘relationship counselling’ with just one person, but it’s best if both members of the couple attend, and both should commit to coming to weekly sessions for six weeks. I can work with any two people in a committed relationship.
How do you move a mountain? Stone by stone…
GET IN TOUCH
Get in touch if you would like to arrange an initial phone or video call. You can ask any questions you may have about how counselling works, and we can discuss the reasons you are considering counselling, whether counselling would help you and if I am the right therapist for you. The initial 15 minute call or zoom is free, and follows the same confidentiality rules as a normal session.
MY LOCATION
I work from private rooms located in Oban, and see clients from Argyll, Lochgilphead, Tarbert, Helensburgh as well as the surrounding areas.
I also offer sessions online via Zoom.
SESSIONS & FEES
Sessions last a full hour, and cost £55 (couples £60). I'm happy to negotiate if this cost is hard for you, and accept a reduced fee for students and those on a low income or benefits. I also offer a free 15 minute zoom call so that you can meet me, check out how we might work together and ask any questions.
The first full session, either on zoom or face to face, is charged at the normal rate. I ask for at least 24 hours notice of cancellation of a session, otherwise I may ask you for the full fee for that session. I can work flexibly around shift work and varying work schedules, for example weeks on/off on board ship.
Sessions take place in one of two quiet and comfortable counselling rooms in Oban, or online by zoom.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
What’s the difference between counselling and psychotherapy?
There’s no official definition of either, and the terms are often used interchangeably, but it’s generally accepted that counselling is more of a short term thing – looking at an event, perhaps a bereavement, conflict at work, or a period of stress or anxiety – while psychotherapy tends to be longer term, looking more at your family history, patterns, relationships and ‘how you do what you do’ in the world – and of course, how you might change that.
Is everything I say confidential?
In general, yes. However, along with all other therapists, I have a duty to consider breaking confidentiality if I believe someone may be harmed or a criminal offence may be or has been committed. I would always attempt to talk to you before breaking confidentiality.
How long will it take to feel better?
It depends on you, your specific issues, and how long standing are the feelings you want to work with. In general you will start to see a difference within 2 months, and I recommend committing to weekly sessions for six weeks before you decide that counselling is not for you.
Who decides what we talk about?
You do. I might point things out, ask you questions and be a bit challenging sometimes, but we only go where you want to go, when you’re ready to go there.
What if I don’t really know what’s wrong?
This can often be the case at the start of therapy. We start with whatever is with you at the time, and explore wherever that takes us – a bit like going for a walk somewhere you’ve never been before, to see what you might come across!
How soon can I get an appointment?
Normally within about 2 weeks.
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